The whole time I was growing up, my mother was a nomad. She moved us ALL the time! If she thought there was something better for us somewhere else, we moved there. She never seemed to be afraid of change. Then we all moved in together.
During the 10 years we lived together she fought cancer twice and won! Those fights cost her so much though. She lost her strength and she lost her ability to accept change. It terrified her, I think. Mike and I have been trying to talk her into downsizing for the past couple of years but she would have none of it. Finally, my brother and I went to Alamogordo to look at houses for her. She loves the high desert and Mike and I will eventually be retiring to our place in New Mexico so Alamogordo made sense. We found a lovely little house with a view of the mountains that we thought would be perfect for her. Three weeks later she was all moved in! She overcame her fears and took a leap of faith.
I visited her again this weekend and I must say she is blooming! She has a lovely relationship with the retired Air Force gentleman next door who plays guitar and sings in a group with friends. He has restored a Model "A" Ford and she rides with him in parades. She goes out several evenings a week and they do lots of things together. She is happy. She is glowing. She is stronger. The change she resisted for so long has changed her and it is inspiring.
Our granddaughter was baptized this weekend in Fort Worth. All 7 of her grandparents were there. Now you may think that would be a little awkward, after all, it IS 4 ex-spouses and 3 new spouses all trying to get along. And I am very proud to say that we all did better than that!
We had a lovely bar-b-que at Gwendolyn's house on Saturday evening. We had a fantastic time! Everyone helped, we all shared in cooking, set-up, clean-up and pouring wine and beer. We also heard some of those great stories your kids never tell you until they know they are past the age of punishment! Hair raising tales that make you wonder how they survived their teen years and how is it possible that you didn't know about it?!
And all the grandparents got plenty of baby Gwen cuddle time.
A child led us to put differences aside and focus on the one thing we all had in common…this amazing baby girl.
We have puppies. We are exhausted. People always say that you don't really know what it is to be a parent until you have TWO children. Bill Cosby says that's because with only one child you always know who did it! It is the same with puppies.
Our two, Augie and BB, are inseparable, and energetic. It is always amazing to me how different their personalities are. Augie is the scruffy terrier. He is timid with new people, is very still and sweet when you hold him, sleeps in bed with us, and is very protective if he perceives a threat. He can also be shamed into better behavior.
BB is in every way the opposite. BB is the little Pomeranian mix. She is so adorable she gets forgiveness because her cuteness is impossible to ignore. She is not particularly cuddly, doesn't know a stranger, and cannot be shamed into better behavior because she truly believes everything she does is golden! She is bold, independent, and very, very naughty. At the Lonestar Sanctuary they called her "Xena Princess Puppy" for a reason!
Everyone says the best way to potty train them is by using crate training. But it is really hard to put a shelter puppy into a crate. Our two were found wandering in the streets and they have serious separation anxiety when we leave them alone. So we will just keep taking them outside every 15 minutes until they learn, or we do.
Sometimes we question our wisdom for adopting two puppies, but we never question our decision to adopt THESE two puppies!
We all get caught up in the everyday confusion that is life. It is in America's DNA to always want more. It is why we are such a "blessed" nation! I believe we truly are blessed by God's Grace but we also work really hard! So sometimes it is hard to see what we have because we are working so hard to have more.
I was sitting on our deck in the mountains reading this weekend and I looked up and realized that my childhood dreams had come true! It was shocking really. Growing up in Colorado, all I wanted was a cabin in the mountains. I was even pretty specific about wanting a big screened-in porch. So when I realized I was sitting and reading on my childhood dream porch I was kind of shocked.
We lose track of our early dreams. Sometimes we don't even still want what we thought we did. But somehow, through the years, this childhood dream of mine was realized. How about that! Sometimes you just have to stop and smell the pine trees!
So stop and look around you…have your dreams come true and you have been too busy to notice?
I have been told over and over never to pray for patience. God will send you many things that will try your patience until you finally break and LEARN to be patient. It is not granted to you like a wish it is developed like a muscle!
That being said, Mike and I have really been developing our patience muscle. Our house has been on the market for 2 months. Everyone says the house is perfect. It is 5 bedrooms and 41/2 baths of perfect! It is over 3700 square feet of clean, new, fresh perfect. Priced right, great value, low maintenance. That being said, it has not sold.
I know many of you have gone through this same frustration. Trying to keep a house clean AT ALL TIMES with children and pets and life happening. You will definitely get your patience muscle strengthened.